Tuesday, August 31, 2010

Trust is Fragile!!!

It’s so difficult to gain the trust of someone, yet it’s so easy to lose it. Trust has been a major concern for couples these days. It is one of the foundations of a steady and healthy relationship. Once this foundation starts to break and fall apart, then such relationship would be very risky and expect that it won't be long that conflicts will heightened and it will be intricate to resolve these conflicts. I even have my own share of issues with regards to trust. It's tiring, agonizing, exhausting and frustrating that someone has lost his/her trust on you, even if you haven’t done anything for such loss to happen. Like in the story, Pedro and Soledad were living together harmoniously, not until Soledad knew what the other key was for. She didn’t think wisely on how she should react to what she discovered.

Keeping something means giving value to that certain material or the one associated with that object or material. I could understand why Pedro kept the things of her first wife who died. There is nothing wrong with what he did. We must understand losing someone, especially those whom you love so much, is a very painful experience. The problem then was that Soledad was afraid that her husband still loves his first wife and that she let jealousy starts to swirl around their relationship. This is why communication must exist. There should be an open communication between couples to easily fix or resolve issues and be able to recognize the thoughts, needs and concerns of their partners. What Soledad did was not to ask his husband about what she discovered. Instead, she kept it on to herself and tried to take the negative thoughts without talking about it with her husband. As she continues to take the worries solely, she wasn’t able to stop herself and she burned the clothes of Pedro’s first wife. Is her action acceptable? Or should we say that what she did was understandable? For me, we can’t just say that we understand her because of what she felt. The best that she could have done was to ask her husband and talk about it. Pedro, as expected, was angry of what Soledad did. In the first place, he could have told Soledad earlier about those clothes of her first wife. It’s very complex to keep or hide something from your partner. Time will come that secrets will be revealed and expect the possible outcomes of such revelations.

Trust is a very crucial ingredient of every good relationship. It’s never a right choice to solve a problem alone when it must be dealt together with your partner. We only have enough time to fix our personal problems, but once we’ve gone beyond the time limit, it will all be regrets and there’s nothing else we can do to change it. We must treasure or value the trust given to us by other people, especially by those who are dear to us. Life isn’t complete without trust. One must have trust in his partner, in his family and in God. In reality, it’s not just about the idea of trust. If you trust someone, you must show it and be appreciated for the trust you gave to that person.

Wednesday, August 18, 2010

Bye for Now

Let's remember the years
All the times we've spent together
All the laughter,
and tears we've shared

See the faces around us
They're a part
Of who we are
They have made
Marks on our lives

Now we're moving on
A step ahead
From a journey
Where we are thru

These days are gone
Are we to smile or frown?
Don't cry
Just smile

Though we'll have our separate ways,
It doesn't end here
Just say
"till we meet again"

Sunday, July 18, 2010

It’s me and it’s mine. Yours, you can find!


I’ve been in this world for more than 21 years. It’s been a crazy ride and embraced by fears. The thoughts of being hopeless and judged, seasonally swing in my head. I don’t know how to rate my life, but I pretty much know how it feels like. You may be able to understand what I’ll share or relate your own experiences with my scenes, but I bet you don’t want to fit your shoes unto mine on some instances in my life.


I used to run the whole day when I was a little man. I enjoyed the scenery of having my peers with me and together we wrapped up the day after the exhausting hours of school work. I get excited when it comes to competing and showing what I got about the activities in our Physical Education Class. It was like an unending adrenaline flowing in my veins. The campus witnessed my early years, and it kept on reminding me of where I’ve been and what is expected from me.


I live with my family and learned bunches from my parents. I was able to duplicate a few characteristics of my parents. Like my dad, I’m a very serious person. Even joy can’t make smile out of my face. You can call me “Mr. Serious” or whatever you want to call me. I was a cold rock during those times. I began to learn my potentials of becoming a musician and a leader as well. Our church’s pastor and my music instructor in high school inspired me to learn and explore the world of music and musical instruments. It is where my passion for music was born. With my unique personality and appeal, I gained the respect of my friends and schoolmates. I became the president of our class from first year to fourth year and became an officer of other organizations. It was a manifestation and a sign that I can be a good leader by serving and working for the respect from the individuals surrounding me.


For the past 5 years of my life, it was like hell in an open paradise. I’ve made stupid decisions and became weak emotionally. You might look at me and have the impression of being tough, but deep in this sturdy physique is a fragile vase easily broken and easily disappointed. I enjoyed too much of the comforts of this world and denied the chances for a better living. I could have finished my studies now, but then I decided immaturely and irrationally. It was difficult then, because of the expectations I’ve failed.


Before, I believe in the saying, “Regret is at the end” or “Nasa huli ang pag-sisisi” but failed to recognize it when it comes to deciding for the present. Now, it’s a better view and wisdom from the past experiences have kept me facing the challenges that life may bring and be firm enough to withstand the storms, and to reach and to hold the stars that I’ve been watching from afar.


"""" This is who I am. My past speaks for who I am today, and my present reveals of who will I become tomorrow."