MY PURPOSE, MY LIFE, YOUR LIFE

My philosophy in life is simple and clear; I am created by God and for God. I’m having a hard time to describe what philosophy I have for myself. In each day I live, it’s the kind of thought that will never be missing. I didn’t choose this philosophy just because it is also what most people, especially Christians, would tell you. It’s just the idea that has been solidified in my life. It is simply the reason, my purpose, why I exist and still existing in this world.
When I accepted Christ as my personal Lord and Savior, my perspective on how to live life has become vivid. Well, it’s easy to do different things when we don’t think of the consequences ahead of us. But when change came into my life, I’ve become more confident of what I am doing. Every day, I must be vigilant with the words that comes out from my mouth, what I am look at, what I am doing and even what I am thinking of. Setting Christ as an example of how to live a life worth living isn’t simple. For several times I have failed to follow my own philosophy in life. Many times I have failed to fulfill my purpose in life. It’s very hard to stand for what we believe in. I remember what Christ said that if you want to follow me, u must carry your own Cross. Now that clearly shows it not a simple deal. Though I have failed at times, there are always chances to make up for my mistakes. That is what God wants us to remember. He wants us to realize our purpose. God wants us to know him and make him known to others.
This is my purpose in life. This is what I believe that God has prepared for me. My main purpose is to let YOU and those that will read this that God created YOU not to stumble and fall, but to rise and let His LOVE and GLORY be shown in our loves. For all of us, it’s a matter of choice. We follow what we believe in and we decide for what’s right for us. What is important is to live our life worth living. For me, the only worth living is to live a life for the one who gave me life and gave his life for me. It is not easy to die for others, but I think its rightful to give what we have for the ONE who gave you life now and for forever.

Conflicting Ideas

Don Paeng and Lupe are in a tight situation where couples at present are experiencing. Conflicts arising from different views, opinions, practices and traditions; are part of the struggles in our society. It depicts the differences we have in our society and even in our own personal views. I, myself have my own personally belief and outlook in life. It may be similar or different from the other point of view. The thing here is that we can’t please everyone and all of us must adjust to the circumstances we are at.
Set in the 1920s, the film "Tatarin" showed conflicts between men and women. There was inequality between the sexes. Like when Lupe wants to do something, she must have the approval of Don Paeng. Men were superior over women. Lupe then became dissatisfied with how her relationship with Paeng was going. She began to find her own relief and disobeyed Paeng. Similar to our present time, women want equally rights and opportunities with men. They want to experience freedom and be able to feel being respected at the same time adored. There exist also a conflict between beliefs of Catholics and Pagans when the men celebrated St. John the Baptist's festival and the women had their Pagan Ritual called “Tatarin”. Don Paeng showed his dislike for such act and he thought of it as a ritual for “indios”. He showed there his strong stand on his belief which each one of us should have. We must stand firm in what we believe in and let nothing influence us that contradicts our faith and belief in life.
What we can get from the conflicts raised in the film is that we must be open-minded and critical in our action and decisions in life. We must learn not to be pulled down by our pride and establish a good relationship, not just with those that are close to us, but also to those who surround us. A lot have changed and developed over time, including practices and belief. We must understand that everyone has his own rights and can fight for what he believes in, without anyone to prevent him from doing so. It’s not the society that must dictate what we should become, but it’s our own preference to establish ourselves as to who we want to be.

Young to be Old

Early marriage can never be ideal. Society though, tries to accept the reality that there are a lot of cases where very young couples are married. It is a disturbing fact, yet we must not ass on this concern.

Usually, the causes of early marriages are early pregnancies due also to premarital sex, wrong decision making and fixed marriages. A lot neglect the negative effects of early marriages. Early marriage usually ends up in divorce because of couple's immaturity. Though there are marriages that still last even for a very long time, early marriages are usually not results of true love between the couples. They marry because the girl is pregnant and there is a sense of urgency that they have to be married. Later on, it will be them and their child who would suffer the consequences of their actions.

Early marriages, like any other marriages, do have advantages and disadvantages, but it will never be ideal nor it could be very helpful in our society. Its disadvantages weighs more than its advantages. We must think and act wisely. We must follow our minds over our hearts and not just be carried away with our emotions, as in the case of early marriages.

Mission to Accomplish

I newly discovered that what I want to achieve in the future is success not just on my chosen career but success in life as a whole. I want to achieve the best that I could have through my efforts and whatever I could extract out of myself. I want to achieve what my parents want for me and the simple dreams I have for myself.

Surely i want to have the best and be able to provide the needs of my family. I want to have, not necessarily everything in this world but, the things that I need, to do my part as a son, citizen of this country and in the future as the head of my own family. I want to have a decent income-generating work in the future and give my parents incentives for everything that they have done for me. I may not be able to achieve everything I want in an instant, but I could start with the simplest things to achieve my dreams. I want to achieve, little by little, things that later on would give me satisfaction and fulfillment in life.

I do have my own unique dreams to achieve. Like anybody else who aims for their goals, I want everything I need to be achieved in the right time. Life is short, but there is much to fulfill and accomplish. For me, the best thing I want to achieve is having to examine my life and make the most out of time to correct my mistakes, fulfill my dreams and have the realization that I have lived a life worth-living.

Biggest "X"

Mistakes are no guests to a person's life. Just as what I did a few years ago. I committed the same mistakes over and over. I didn't attend to my classes; instead, I went somewhere else wasting my time.

Several times that I was reprimanded about taking education for granted, and many times I heard it but didn't listen to it. I knew it was wrong, but I just couldn't control myself from skipping my classes. Sometimes, I felt coming to class, but when the feeling of boredom and when thoughts about my problems during those times came into my mind, I began to lose the will and excitement to come to class. I went to the mall just standing and looking around, and then spent the rest of my time in the internet cafes. I knew at that time that I have to change that kind of attitude, but it was so difficult to be back on track.

I believe that I was stupid at that time and did something that affected what I have and who I have become now. I couldn't turn back the time and correct my mistakes. I did those things out of immaturity. It was my biggest mistake in life, but it gave me the biggest realization for me to mature and live a life worth-living.

Trust is Fragile!!!

It’s so difficult to gain the trust of someone, yet it’s so easy to lose it. Trust has been a major concern for couples these days. It is one of the foundations of a steady and healthy relationship. Once this foundation starts to break and fall apart, then such relationship would be very risky and expect that it won't be long that conflicts will heightened and it will be intricate to resolve these conflicts. I even have my own share of issues with regards to trust. It's tiring, agonizing, exhausting and frustrating that someone has lost his/her trust on you, even if you haven’t done anything for such loss to happen. Like in the story, Pedro and Soledad were living together harmoniously, not until Soledad knew what the other key was for. She didn’t think wisely on how she should react to what she discovered.

Keeping something means giving value to that certain material or the one associated with that object or material. I could understand why Pedro kept the things of her first wife who died. There is nothing wrong with what he did. We must understand losing someone, especially those whom you love so much, is a very painful experience. The problem then was that Soledad was afraid that her husband still loves his first wife and that she let jealousy starts to swirl around their relationship. This is why communication must exist. There should be an open communication between couples to easily fix or resolve issues and be able to recognize the thoughts, needs and concerns of their partners. What Soledad did was not to ask his husband about what she discovered. Instead, she kept it on to herself and tried to take the negative thoughts without talking about it with her husband. As she continues to take the worries solely, she wasn’t able to stop herself and she burned the clothes of Pedro’s first wife. Is her action acceptable? Or should we say that what she did was understandable? For me, we can’t just say that we understand her because of what she felt. The best that she could have done was to ask her husband and talk about it. Pedro, as expected, was angry of what Soledad did. In the first place, he could have told Soledad earlier about those clothes of her first wife. It’s very complex to keep or hide something from your partner. Time will come that secrets will be revealed and expect the possible outcomes of such revelations.

Trust is a very crucial ingredient of every good relationship. It’s never a right choice to solve a problem alone when it must be dealt together with your partner. We only have enough time to fix our personal problems, but once we’ve gone beyond the time limit, it will all be regrets and there’s nothing else we can do to change it. We must treasure or value the trust given to us by other people, especially by those who are dear to us. Life isn’t complete without trust. One must have trust in his partner, in his family and in God. In reality, it’s not just about the idea of trust. If you trust someone, you must show it and be appreciated for the trust you gave to that person.

Bye for Now

Let's remember the years
All the times we've spent together
All the laughter,
and tears we've shared

See the faces around us
They're a part
Of who we are
They have made
Marks on our lives

Now we're moving on
A step ahead
From a journey
Where we are thru

These days are gone
Are we to smile or frown?
Don't cry
Just smile

Though we'll have our separate ways,
It doesn't end here
Just say
"till we meet again"